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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
Benefits of Mindfulness: Mindful Living Can Change Your Life
Mindfulness 101: A Beginner's Guide
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Hey, everyone.
Welcome to the final
day of our Un-challenge.
It's been such a joy to do this with you.
And in today's session, my hope
is to create a bridge between some
of what we've been exploring in
the realm of being, acceptance,
allowing, to the realm of doing and
having to participate in the world.
We've already touched on that in different
ways here, but, you know, the big
theme of this un-challenge has been the
un-challenge, permission to be human,
permission to be you, permission to rest,
permission to drop into that place of
stillness within you and allow yourself
to unwind and not have to constantly put
things in the category of good or bad
or right or wrong, or judge yourself.
And it can sometimes come across
like, "Oh yeah, I guess I should
just let go of everything."
And a lot of times when people get
into the work of mindfulness and
meditation, there is this presumption
that it means I should just be detached
from everything and not really have
preferences, not be judging, just allow
everything to happen as it's happening.
There's some wisdom in that,
but it's quite incomplete.
Because the reality is, is you're
still a human being, interacting
with other human beings and the
planet and the world around you.
And you're going to
have your own patterns.
You're going to have your own preferences.
And even the depth of your enlightenment
and wakefulness and awareness has
to express itself through you.
And that means you're going to
be doing things in the world.
So what is this relationship between
the being quality that we've been
exploring and the doing quality that
is equally important in the world?
Well, if I can summarize it
in one statement, I think we
could say its commitment to
process, detachment from outcome.
Commitment to process,
detachment from outcome.
What does it mean to be
committed to the process?
It means that you are taking
responsibility for how you show up
in each moment, recognizing that
you do have influence over your
relationship to what is arising.
Your own thoughts, your emotions, your
sensations, your boundaries, what you
allow, what you might push back on,
conversations that need to be had with
other people, values that you feel and
how you're acting those out in the world.
These are within your
scope of responsibility.
They are things that
you have influence over.
They are part of the process.
And this work of connecting to
ourselves in the way that we've been
doing allows us to be more committed
to the process because we've deepened
our capacity to listen for what is
arising as most true for us, rather
than just running patterns of thought
and emotion and reactivity, where we
go through life on automatic pilot.
It's coupled though, with this
detachment from outcome, which is
just the recognition that all we can
do is show up in a certain way and
what happens from there is not really
our business, in the sense of it's
outside of our scope of responsibility.
We can't actually
control what will unfold.
Nobody can.
And so when we take that perspective,
it really allows us to treat each
moment as precious and feel our own
inner empowerment to show up the best
we can, to listen as deeply as possible
to what is arising right now, how
am I feeling in relationship to it,
what feels true for me as a response.
And then to surrender to that.
And then to let go of what happens from
there, because we know it is the most
we were capable of doing in that moment.
If we had more resources, if we were able
to see things more clearly, we would.
But that's part of the development
of being a human being.
We accumulate more of that as we go.
All we have in each moment is our
capacity to listen to our experience,
to listen to how we are relating to
what is coming in and choosing the
best response in relationship to that.
What unfolds from there is, in
many ways, not our business.
So as you continue to take what
we've learned here, and this
process of unwinding, reconnecting
to yourself, listening to what is
most true in your being, I really
encourage you to trust that as enough.
And then what unfolds from
there will unfold from there.
Your responsibility, your scope of
responsibility is to listen and surrender
to what feels most true in this moment.
And then take in feedback, right?
We're always listening to feedback
that comes from decisions that we make
and things that we do in the world.
We hear what other people
have to say about that.
We integrate it into our worldview.
Okay, that makes sense, or
that doesn't make sense.
And then we try again in this moment, and
then this moment, and then this moment.
This is a commitment to process
the detachment from outcome.
And in my experience, this is how we
plant those worlds of being and doing.
And it allows us to move through our life
with much more ease, fluidity, trust,
surrender, because we're not holding
the consequences of this moment for
the next month or a year or 10 years.
We just know that we can't influence that.
That's just the mind's
neuroticism getting caught up.
And what does this mean?
If anyone knew that, they
would be making a lot of money.
So can we commit to listening
and trust that's enough?
That is my invitation to you.
We'll explore more of this in today's
meditation, but since this is the
last time I'll see you here on video,
I just want to say thank you again.
It's been a joy to walk
you through this series.
If you like this and you want to
continue this work, we have videos
just like this, about three minutes
long, in the Mindfulness.com app.
Every single day, you could get
a new video and a new meditation
corresponding with that to
continue what we've done here.
And it would be great to continue
to work with you in that way.
So thank you for your practice.
Let's settle in for today's meditation.
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