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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
Benefits of Mindfulness: Mindful Living Can Change Your Life
Mindfulness 101: A Beginner's Guide
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Welcome back to your Daily Mindfulness.
In today's session, we're going to
discuss why we often self-sabotage
the good things in our life.
First thing to keep in mind is that
your nervous system seeks out what's
familiar, not what's good for you.
It's a confusing thing.
Why do we fall into the same
patterns over and over again?
We know this kind of person isn't
good for us and yet we repeatedly
date people just like them.
It's important to remember that our
nervous systems are often trying to take
us into a space that's familiar, not what
our logical brain thinks is good for us.
In the world of the nervous
system, familiar equals
comfort, and it wants comfort.
So going back to the example above, let's
say you're trying to break the pattern
of falling into abusive relationships.
You know that person isn't good
for you, but you keep going back
to them and people just like them.
Well, ask yourself, did you grow
up around people who were similar?
Were your parents abusive in any way?
Is that sort of person what you're
more familiar with or all, you know?
Did you grow up in a household
that had uncertainty, instability,
noise and maybe chaos?
Perhaps you hated it?
You may have even promised yourself that
you will never live like that again, or
surround yourself with people like that.
However, this is what your nervous
system adapted to as familiar.
It's what it knows.
When there isn't that chaos and
uncertainty, it's a new experience
and it doesn't know as well how to
react or how to be comfortable and
quiet, calm, and even security.
So what happens?
You find someone that is more
grounded and calm, spend some
time with them and then leave.
You know, you usually say they're
boring or it just doesn't feel
right, it's kind of uncomfortable.
But this is your nervous system
trying to get back to what it knows.
There are different ways to break
this pattern, but in general, it's
helping the nervous system adjust
to and appreciate new territory.
And this is one of the powerful
things about meditation.
In meditation, we notice all of our
usual desires, our versions, our
needs and wants and allow ourselves
to find grounding amid all of this.
There's a new peace that arises.
One that is not contingent upon
riding the emotional rollercoaster.
And in the context of our example,
from this new place of peace, you're
more likely to value the company
of someone similar to that, if
that's what you're looking for.
So notice where you might be
getting caught in patterns of
self-sabotage in your own life
and see if you can examine that.
And does it look like your nervous
system might be seeking out what's
familiar rather than what you want.
And practice being with
the thing that you want.
Notice the resistance to it,
maybe some of the discomfort and
just practice settling into it.
Over time, that will become
the nervous system's new
default interest, if you will.
As always, thank you for your practice.
I appreciate your time
and I'll talk to you soon.
Take care.
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