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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
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Mindfulness 101: A Beginner's Guide
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Hi, welcome back to
your Daily Mindfulness.
In today's session, I'm going to
share three steps to change patterns.
I talk a lot about
patterns of conditioning.
These scripts that we can get caught
up in, the same actions that we take,
the thought patterns that trigger
emotions that trigger behaviors.
And the question then becomes, how
do we work with those patterns?
There are a lot of different strategies,
but from a mindfulness perspective,
there's something really powerful
to just settling into the momentum
of that pattern as it's arising so
that it doesn't complete itself.
A big part of changing patterns
is not letting them continue
to reinforce themselves.
So here are three steps you can use
in those moments where you feel the
energy, the momentum of a pattern moving
through you, pushing you to react in a
certain way, to respond in a certain way
and what you can do to work with that.
The first step is just to simply meet it.
This might seem obvious, but there's
something to bring presence to
the experience that can already
stop the pattern in its track.
It's no longer operating subconsciously
in the background of our awareness.
We're seeing it more clearly.
So we just meet it.
What does that look like?
It couldn't look like feeling it,
noticing the thoughts moving through your
mind and just a general sense of that
energetic momentum moving through your
body that's saying, I need to do this.
So we meet it.
The next step.
Another simple one.
Just breathe.
Take a deep breath.
The reason I use that so often and
the reason I say it for so many
different things is because it works.
It settles the nervous system.
It, it helps also disperse
some of that localized energy.
And when I say localized energy, I
mean like, think about if you wanted a
cookie or something, you would feel that
energy in your hands, or maybe in your
mouth, like you really want that thing.
When we take a deep breath, it allows that
to spread out throughout the body so that
it's, now we're a little less reactive.
So we meet it.
We take a breath.
And then the last step is to soften.
Again, this one might feel obvious
as well, but also really important.
When we're caught in a pattern,
it's often a form of tension.
We're gripping around something.
There's, there's something moving through
us that is saying you need to do this.
And do you feel the tension that comes
with that mentality of, I need to do this?
So even after we've met it, we breathe,
there may still be some form of tension
showing up in the body, the shoulders,
the jaw, the hands, and for that, we
just invite all of that to soften.
And what that will do it will
also make us comfortable in that
space of being with the pattern.
We'll no longer feel some of the
intensity, the emotional charge that the
pattern is bringing up and it allows us
to move through us in a more spacious way.
So three steps: meet
it, breathe, and soften.
Try this out when you find yourself caught
up in some of these patterns and at the
very least this should help stop them
in their tracks and not allow them to
reinforce themselves in a way that wants
to then create itself again in the future.
Thank you for your practice.
Let's settle in for today's meditation.
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