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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
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Mindfulness 101: A Beginner's Guide
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Hi, welcome back to
your Daily Mindfulness.
In today's session, we're
going to talk about relating to
parts of yourself as an enemy.
Now, I first want to start by saying I do
not support relating to parts of yourself
as enemies to overcome, including the ego.
You may have noticed this in different
personal development spaces that when
people talk about the ego, it's often
spoken about as this thing that we
need to transcend, that we need to
destroy, that we need to overcome.
It's an enemy that we
have to go to battle with.
And it's very easy to take this same
relationship to other parts of us, the
parts of us that might feel some fear,
the parts of us that might get angry.
Anything that we perceive is hurting us in
some way, or even those around us, we can
look at that and go, that is the enemy,
that is the thing that I need to overcome.
But we can really get into a troublesome
relationship with ourselves when we're
doing that repeatedly, because these
parts that are arising, including
anger or including fear, even though
they can be frustrating, they also
serve a purpose in different contexts.
Anger can tell you when something is off
and you need to respond in a certain way.
Fear can tell you when
there could be danger.
And so, often when we're frustrated
is when emotions like that, or those
parts get activated in contexts where
we don't really want them to be there.
But a lot of times that's because
in previous contexts that were
similar, we learned that this is
the way that we need to respond in
order to be safe, in order to get
attention, in order to receive love.
So it's not like these parts
are trying to hurt you.
They're, they just need some retraining.
They just need to learn from the
adult part of you how to respond
to the situation, and when they're
needed and when they're not.
So instead of relating to these parts
as enemies to overcome, I support
recognizing the positive intention of
each of these parts in you, including
the seemingly destructive ones, and
learning to create an internal space
where these parts can collaborate as
a team to respond most appropriately
to what's arising in the moment.
This is a way that you can move toward
what you're trying to do and the goals
you're trying to reach without betraying
parts of yourself along the way.
So see if you can take this perspective
into your day as you navigate the
different things that you will.
And as always thank you for your
practice, because this is big work.
Let's settle in for today's meditation.
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