Breaking Patterns

Hi, welcome back to your Daily Mindfulness. In today's session, we're going to talk about breaking patterns. I'll start with a statement. If there is a pattern that you can't break, there is some part of you that is still finding safety, predictability, and even pleasure in that pattern. Trying to immediately change the pattern without looking at the underlying relationship to it will often keep us stuck in loops.

Temporarily breaking it when we feel highly motivated, but then falling back. We often first need to clearly see why we're holding on before we can let go. So instead of trying to move away from the pattern, practice moving closer to it, get to know it, bring curiosity there, listen to it as if you were listening to a good friend. Ask it, How are you trying to serve me? What do you perceive would happened if we stopped doing this pattern? You may be curious what you hear. And there's a good chance that some of the fears are related to things that you actually have the resources to navigate.

So you can then speak to the pattern as your adult self, rather than the more fearful child who is concerned about not being in control. Imagine that you were coaching a friend trying to assure and inspire them. How would you talk to them in that scenario? That's how you can practice talking to the pattern. Essentially you're shifting from, you're shifting your identification from the pattern itself to your adult self, which is a much more empowered place to lead your life from. Thank you for your practice.

Let's settle in for today's meditation.