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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
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Mindfulness 101: A Beginner's Guide
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Hi, and welcome to your Daily Mindfulness.
Today I'm going to talk about the value
of choosing discomfort over resentment.
So resentment.
This is when we have ongoing upset
feelings, usually anger or annoyance
towards another person or people
because of a real, a misunderstood,
or perhaps an imagined injustice.
Now resentment might arise, for instance,
you know, after a careless comment that a
friend made, a criticism from a coworker,
or when we feel like someone's not
pulling their weight in the relationship,
or maybe they're not treating us the
way that we would like to be treated.
Sometimes when we experienced
resentment, we feel victimized.
But we might feel too angry, too
ashamed, or maybe too afraid of
conflict to discuss how we feel.
So instead, what often happens is that
we hold a grudge, we hold all these
anger inside of us and it festers.
We've all been there, right?
So Brené Brown is a person who's been a
real source of inspiration in my life.
But of all the things I've learned from
her, there's one quote, one invitation
that stands out to me the most and really
has a profound impact on my own life,
both personally and professionally.
And the quote is this, "Choose
discomfort over resentment."
What does that mean to choose
discomfort over resentment?
To me, it means that whenever we're
presented with a difficult situation
with someone, when we're feeling angry,
disappointed, or irritated with them,
we should choose, in those moments,
to engage in a clear, kind and honest
conversation about it and ask for
change if that's needed or appropriate.
Easy to say, but this
is often hard, right?
Like we often want to avoid this
because we know the conversation
could potentially cause conflict.
We know it's going to be
a little uncomfortable.
But the reality is that not
doing this will lead to bigger
resentments down the line.
So really the way I see it is
choosing discomfort over resentment,
to me, is an act of love.
Because it shows that I care about
this relationship enough to be honest,
iron out any issues so that I don't
hold resentment or harbor ill will.
Choosing discomfort over resentment
means setting boundaries, avoiding
people, people pleasing, being honest
and authentic about what's going on
for you, being really transparent.
It applies to all kinds
of situations, right?
And it might mean telling a family
member that something that they
said made you feel uncomfortable.
It might be letting your partner know
that actually it really bothers you
when they leave their clothes on the
floor or their dishes in the sink.
It might mean saying to your boss that
their requests are not reasonable.
You know, it's willing to, being
willing to speak up when you feel
your boundaries have been crossed,
you feel misunderstood or mistreated.
Just really letting the other
person know how you feel.
And these conversations can all be done
in a really caring and compassionate way.
So my invitation for you today is to
do a little check in with yourself and
see if there's any where in your life
where you're holding on to resentment.
And if it feels right to you finding
out how you can choose discomfort
over resentment as an act of love.
And, you know, as Brené Brown
says, "Compassionate people,
they ask for what they need.
They say no when they need to.
They say yes when they mean it.
And they're compassionate because their
boundaries keep them out of resentment."
So that's the invitation
for practice today.
And as always, thank you for your
practice and your presence here with us.
And now let's settle in
for today's meditation.
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