Connection and Relationships

Hi, welcome back to your Daily Mindfulness. In today's session, we're going to talk about connection and relationships. Let's start by acknowledging that relationships are tricky, very tricky. It's hard enough to be an individual human with needs, desires, boundaries, and complexity. In relationship, you're now dealing with more than one human with needs, desires, boundaries, and complexity, and mixing that all together can get well, quite difficult.

One of the things that often happens is we withhold our true experience because it feels like it would be too complicated to share that with another. And trust me, when I say I get that. I've been there and I still find myself in that pattern often. And this is not a good long-term recipe for connection, especially the connections that are important to us. If you feel like you have to withhold something in your relationship, in order to maintain the connection, you are actually eroding the connection.

Here's why. If you cannot communicate, you cannot find each other. And the walls to intimacy will remain. You may be able to get along, but it's on a more superficial level. Just think about the difference between relationships where you feel like you can share anything with the person and those where you feel like you can't go too deep.

They just feel different. Right? Of course communicating what is true in your experience is not without its consequences. There's a reason we tend to avoid it. And it can come with the risk of realizing that the relationship may no longer be right or is not what you thought, which is the fear that causes us to withhold something in the first place. So, as I said, I get the struggle and I hope this gives you a perspective that may help you along in developing and deepening the relationships that matter most to you.

Thank you for your practice. Let's settle in for today's meditation.