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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
Benefits of Mindfulness: Mindful Living Can Change Your Life
Mindfulness 101: A Beginner's Guide
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Hey!
Welcome back to your daily mindfulness.
In today's session, we're going to
talk about changing your beliefs.
Now, beliefs impact really
everything in our life, but
especially difficult experiences.
When a difficult experience arises in our
life, the belief we have about what that
means will condition all of the different
emotions and thought patterns that follow.
And it will often condition
whether we're resilient through
the experience, or whether we get
pulled into a downward spiral.
So there's a helpful acronym that I think
will help us start to explore the beliefs
that we have around certain events.
It's called the ABC model and it comes
from cognitive behavioral therapy.
So A, stands for Activating event.
B, stands for Belief.
And C, stands for Consequence.
So what's an activating event?
Really anything that can happen to you?
Difficult conversation you have,
um, a thought that arises in your
mind could be an activating event.
Um, a car accident, loss of a
loved one, a relationship breakup.
All of these forces that arise in
the world that we don't necessarily
want to happen, but they do.
And so maybe consider an activating
event in your life or something
that you're going through right
now during a difficult time.
Whatever that is, this
is the activating event.
Now, the belief is, well, what
we believe about that event?
If it's a relationship breakup,
the belief we might have is,
I'm always going to be single.
What's wrong with me?
No one loves me.
I'm unlovable.
I'm not gonna find another relationship.
This is my fault.
Those might be the beliefs
that we associate just as one
example or a few examples.
The consequence though, is
what happens from that belief.
So again, using the example, we
already have — the relationship
breakup, activating event, the
belief is no one will ever love me.
The consequence of that,
is going to be what?
Probably a whole series of thoughts, about
why no one will ever love me, all the
things that are wrong with me, that will,
that, that allow me to defend that belief.
I'm feeling down, upset, depressed,
not wanting to get off the couch and
start dating again because why would
I, no one will ever love me anyway.
So do you see how the belief
about the event conditions
everything that comes after that?
And what condition is downward
spiral and not being resilient.
Here's the thing with the ABC model.
We can't change the activating rep.
That's going to happen.
And we can't change the consequence
because that's conditioned by the belief.
What we can work with
is the belief itself.
So continuing with this example that
we've already introduced, if we change
the belief to maybe, oh, you know
what, everyone goes through breakups.
I'm not the only person to
go through this and different
people are for different people.
So maybe I needed to experience
this person to understand more about
myself and to understand what works
for me and what doesn't work for me.
And yet it's painful, but this is going
to make me stronger and it's setting
me up for whoever might come next in my
life that will really be worth my time
and who I really can commit my life to.
That's just an example of a belief,
a long belief, but do you see how
that different perspective would
condition a whole different series
of thoughts, emotions, and actions.
So when it comes to navigating a difficult
event in our life, we want to look at
what the belief is, how that's impacting
us, and then how can we start to change
that belief to lead to more resilience,
more positivity, and better actions.
So we'll explore this
more in our meditation.
As always, thank you for your practice.
I'll talk to you shortly and take care.
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