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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
Benefits of Mindfulness: Mindful Living Can Change Your Life
Mindfulness 101: A Beginner's Guide
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Hi, and welcome to your Daily Mindfulness.
Today I'm going to talk about
mindfulness and conflict.
So I think something that we often
misunderstand about practicing
mindfulness is, you know, in the
beginning we might practice mindfulness
and feel like it's going to help us
rise above all the challenges and
all the messiness of everyday life.
So the thinking kind of is that you can
generate so much of a feeling of bliss
in the mind, permanent kind of state of
bliss and that will mean that we will
never again be confronted with difficult
situations and you'll be so at peace
that he'll never again, argue with anyone
or experienced conflict with anyone.
The reality is, is that conflict is
really a part of life in the sense that
people will have different opinions
to yours, people will probably still
be triggered by you and you buy them.
Other people will probably let
you down, disappoint you and
disagree with you and vice versa.
And know, no matter how much inner
peace we generate, the conflict in the
world is also still going to be there.
And you'll probably still feel a
bit of tension at some point during
Christmas dinner every year, you know.
There's an old saying actually, um, If
you want to know if you're enlightened
go home and live with your parents.
I think it was Ram Dass who said this.
So I guess what he's pointing to
here is the fact that mindfulness
cannot magically remove all the
conflict and difficulty in your life.
It's still going to be there.
And for most of us, it would be there if
we went home and lived with our parents.
But what we can do, what mindfulness
does offer, is the ability to
change how you respond to conflict
when it inevitably does arise.
So mindfulness helps us become less
reactive so that we don't immediately
get pulled into our old conditioning, our
old reactive patterns and go ahead and
say, or do things that we later regret.
It does help us respond with
greater wisdom, greater compassion
and greater self awareness.
So very often in a moment of
conflict, we can get taken over by
our old automatic reactions, right?
We've all been there.
Maybe we shut down.
Maybe we walk out.
Maybe we become angry and annoyed.
Mindfulness can help us in those
moments when we feel ourselves
slipping into that reactivity, because
it allows us to pause for a moment.
And in that pause, we can
choose to shift our behavior.
In that way millisecond of a pause
of awareness, when we can become
present, we can choose to shift the
energy of the conversation to one
grounded in non-judgment, curiosity,
open-mindedness and kindness.
You might not end up agreeing with
each other, but no matter which way
the conversation goes, you'll be
more able to stay centered, calm,
and composed, and then feel much
better about the interaction later.
So whenever conflict does come your way,
see it not as something that shouldn't
be happening, but as an opportunity
to learn, evolve, and to make the
choice to bring greater connection
and unconditional acceptance into
your relationships and into your life.
So as always thank you for your
practice and your presence here
with us, and now inviting you to
settle in for today's meditation.
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