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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
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What is Meditation?
How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
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Mindfulness 101: A Beginner's Guide
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Hey, welcome back to
your Daily Mindfulness.
In today's session, we're going
to talk about developing patience.
Now, this is an interesting topic for
me to be discussing because patience
hasn't always come easily to me.
I've always been a bit impatient.
I tend to want things to happen fast.
I get excited about something
and move quickly into it.
And if I don't get results in
something quickly, I tend to drop
it and move on to the next thing.
It's something I'm working on.
But if I'm being honest, I do like the
part of me that is a little impatient.
It's served me in many ways and often
motivates a certain kind of action.
The discomfort of it creates an
impetus for change, which I value.
But there are many scenarios in life,
my own included, that require patience.
Tedious tasks that we're not going
to immediately figure out, raising
children and needing to understand
that they're going to mature and
evolve in their own way in their own
time, or even having long-term goals.
Any big thing that's worth creating
will have ups and downs and seldom
will there be immediate gratification.
So we have to be patient through the
whole journey to get anywhere significant.
So to start to understand how
to develop patience, let's first
look at what impatience is.
My working definition is that
it's a refusal or inability
to be in this moment as it is.
And the reason I say refusal and
inability is because it can be both.
There are some times when we just won't
stand for how the moment is and we're
autonomously saying no to something.
I think this is a healthy
form of impatience.
It could be in relationship to
systemic issues, world issues,
or even a toxic relationship.
There are other forms of
the refusal though, that are
less noble and more cranky.
And that's just, I don't
like how this moment is.
I want it to be different.
It's uncomfortable.
This is when our inner child usually comes
out and starts huffing and puffing because
we don't like how the moment is right now.
But then there's also the inability
to be with moments as they are.
That inability represents more
when our nervous system hasn't been
trained to be grounded, calm, and
at ease through a series of moments
where not used to, or don't like.
To put a computer metaphor
to it, it'd be like too much
data and not enough bandwidth.
And when this happens, we'll
reflectively turn away from the
moment, do something else or rush off.
So what's the solution?
Well, one strategy is to simply
be patient with impatience.
When you feel yourself in that impatient
place, your leg is shaking, your hands
are gripping, your mind is racing,
you're leaning into the next moment.
When you feel that, become
curious about impatience itself.
Drop more deeply into it, which
is going to be counterintuitive.
You'll be frustrated by the
impatience, especially now that
you're trying to not be impatient.
We need to step out of that mentality.
Get out of our heads and into our bodies.
What does this moment feel like?
What are the qualities of impatience?
Where do I feel it in my
hands, my face, my belly?
And as soon as you step out of where
the impatience is trying to get you
and instead drop into the experience
of it itself, well, you're doing
the very opposite of impatience.
So impatience is a refusal or inability
to be with this moment as it is,
then patience is the willingness and
ability to be in this moment as it is.
And that's exactly what you're doing
when you bring curiosity to impatience.
You're willing and able to
be in this moment as it is.
So today, when you find yourself
caught up in those impatient
moments, don't try to get rid of it.
Just connect to it more
deeply, bring curiosity to
it, bring more presence to it.
And in doing so you are
cultivating patience.
We'll explore more of
this in the meditation.
Thank you for your practice.
I'll talk to you soon and take care.
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