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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
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Hey, welcome back to
your Daily Mindfulness.
Today, we're going to talk
about how to embrace failure.
So when I was in college, I got
interested in Brazilian jujitsu.
If you're not familiar with jujitsu,
it's a ground martial art that
focuses primarily on submission.
So no striking.
I found it to be a beautiful martial
art and essentially got addicted to it.
The first summer of training, I
trained twice a day, six days a week.
And that first month was pretty
demoralizing because I got my butt kicked.
Now, obviously when you're starting
out in anything, you're going to
be one of the least skilled people
there or alongside a number of other
people at the same beginner level.
But the time slots I trained in always
had people with higher belt ranks.
So every match I went
into, I got submitted.
I would learn something new at the
beginning of class, then we would grapple
and I would tap out every single time.
It would be an arm bar, a
rear naked, choke, a Kimora.
And of course in the beginning,
this was fine because I was new
and expected this to happen.
But after a month of this of
exerting, so much effort, so much
energy to still be getting tapped
out each time was tough and it often
brought up a lot of emotion for me.
Maybe you've noticed this
with things in your own life.
You have something you care about,
you're pouring your heart and time
into it, really trying to get it right,
but feeling like nothing's happening.
You're not making any movement and
it can take the wind out of your
sails, at least it did for me.
But I continued.
And one day something
interesting happened.
I was grappling with someone ranked
higher than me and for the full five
minute session, he couldn't tap me out.
So I went back to the sideline,
tried to play it off cool like
that's what normally happens.
But inside I was like,
Whoa, what just happened?
That was interesting.
Uh, so I took a sip of water,
went back into the next match
and again, went the full five
minutes and didn't get tapped out.
This time, I'm like looking around
seeing if anyone's noticing.
This hadn't happened before.
And so I'm starting to think, wow,
like something is shifting here.
Went back to the sideline,
took another sip of water, went
back out with more confidence.
This time got tapped out.
So it wasn't happening every
time, but something was shifting.
And shortly after this, I developed
a reputation in the jujitsu
school as someone that was very
difficult to get a submission on.
I wasn't doing much offense.
I was basically just spending five
minutes in a ball, protecting myself.
But, uh, that first month of making all
of these different mistakes is what led to
an understanding of the things not to do.
And for me, it created
a bulletproof defense.
Eventually I was able to move
on the offense and start getting
my own submissions as well.
So what does this have to do with you?
Well, I'm sure you can resonate with the
idea of, of something that you're going
into in your life that you're struggling
with, having a hard time getting it right.
And it could be stuff with a relationship
or wondering why you keep falling into the
same patterns with people, communication
struggles, or maybe a new role in your
work not getting the best feedback or
as a parent feeling like you're not
always saying the right thing and getting
angry when you wish you could be calm.
I think there's something to, keeping
in mind the story of me going through
my jujitsu journey, uh, and when
you're in those moments of what you
perceive as failures, perhaps you can
see that as a learning opportunity,
as your learning experience, as the
thing that's developing the defense
against those things happening again.
See if you could try out that
perspective and notice how it shifts
your relationship to those moments.
Thank you for your practice.
I'll talk to you soon and take care.
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