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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
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Mindfulness 101: A Beginner's Guide
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Hi, and welcome to your Daily Mindfulness.
Today I'm going to talk about
how to trade jealousy for
genuine joy for others happiness.
So you've probably experienced how
painful jealousy can be and how much
it affects your mental wellbeing.
And your feelings of envy
don't necessarily diminish
the happiness of those you're
jealous of, but they certainly do
diminish our own peace of mind.
And I think, you know, what makes
jealousy even harder is it's one
of those experiences, it's one of
those emotions that we don't really
like to admit that we're having,
we don't like to talk about it.
So it's often a really private experience.
And sometimes quite frankly, we don't
even want to admit it to ourselves, right?
So jealousy takes many different forms.
Competitiveness, resentment, envy,
insecurity, feelings of unworthiness,
or just ill-will towards another person.
So I think what we often don't realize
about jealousy is that a lot of it does
flow from believing that we and our
lives are not good enough just as we are.
So it's a kind of feeling of less than.
So, for example, I've noticed that a bit
of jealousy and insecurity rears up in
me when I see social media and sometimes
these achievements of people in my field
who are doing really big talks or, you
know, they've already written their
books and I'm still working on mine.
And in those moments, when I feel
jealous, I use a tool that I learned
from Buddhism called sympathetic joy.
First, I actually just lean into the
feeling of the emotion in my body.
This allows me to stay present with
my direct experience of the emotion
instead of getting caught up in
my head and in all the thoughts
that keep fueling the jealousy.
So this leaning into what I'm
feeling also pulls me out of
pretending I'm not feeling jealous.
And makes a space for the calm
and compassion of mindfulness to
kind of surround the jealousy.
Then I switch my focus from the
jealousy to deliberately cultivating
happiness and appreciation for
this person's good fortune.
Mentally, I wish them really well.
And I connect to the fact that deep down,
I really do want others to be happy.
So I take a moment to delight
in the fact that they are,
I don't want them to be sad.
I want them to do well.
And then finally, I just take a
moment to notice all the good fortune
I already have in my own life.
And I feel gratitude for it.
So after doing this practice, I
find myself filled with a sense of
abundance and happiness for both of us.
So instead of feeling
lack, I feel abundance.
Instead of feeling less than or
separation, I feel connection and joy.
So in today's meditation, I'm going
to guide you through a practice of
sympathetic joy so you can really have
a longer practice of this for yourself.
But also just the next time you find
yourself caught up in jealousy, see if
you can lean into it, let yourself feel
it, and then switch your focus to being
happy for the abundance and beauty, not
only in their life, but in your life too.
So as always thank you for your
practice and your presence here with us.
And now let's settle in
for today's meditation.
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