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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
Benefits of Mindfulness: Mindful Living Can Change Your Life
Mindfulness 101: A Beginner's Guide
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In this session, we’ll explore the core reasons why we desperately try to stay in control, and how to transition to a life that is easeful and surrendered. Choose meditation duration:
Hey, welcome back to Day
Five of our Un-challenge.
In yesterday's session, we explored
the theme of intuitive guidance,
learning to connect to an inner knowing
and inner voice that is more you,
that when you listen to it and make
decisions from it, it can actually
bring you more in alignment with
yourself rather than out of alignment.
In today's session, I want to
talk about the idea of letting
go and trusting that inner voice,
because it's not always that easy.
Maybe you've experienced for yourself
this sense of, I know what to do.
I have a feeling of this is what's
right for me, but it gets complicated.
These thoughts come in that cause you to
doubt yourself or different emotions of
fear that make you not take the next step.
So why is that?
Well, we have all these
different parts of us.
In the therapeutic modality, internal
family systems, they describe that, you
know, you have your authentic self, they
call it your true self, but then there are
all these other parts that emerge as well.
And so there might be a part that's
more like a manager and it's there
to make sure you're thinking through
everything very logically, all the pros
and the cons, the consequences of doing
things, really staying in control.
Maybe another part comes up that helps put
out the fires when things can go wrong.
Or maybe another part that stays sad in
certain moments, because you've learned
that when you stay sad, you get attention.
So all of these arise at different
points in our life and some of them
become core aspects of our identity.
And if we're not aware of them,
they can actually come in and
really run the show of our life.
And that's not always bad.
I mean, some of these parts were
put in place for a very good reason.
In fact, all of them arose for a very
good reason at a particular time.
But as years go on, we don't always
need those parts in the same way.
Something that was used to keep
us safe or protected or help us
navigate the difficult situation in
childhood might not necessarily be
useful when we're in our twenties,
thirties, forties, fifties, or sixties.
And yet it may still show up in situations
like our intimate relationships or at
our work where maybe fear arises and we
quickly go into an old pattern of avoiding
or over-analyzing or doubting ourselves.
So how do we begin to work with
that so that we're leading our
life from more of our true self?
Well, one of the things that is necessary
is that those parts that have adapted,
maybe let's say the manager part, that
part needs to see, it really needs to
be convinced that you have the resources
to navigate your life without its help.
If it thinks that it needs to be
there in order for you to be safe
or to get love or to avoid pain,
it's going to continue to persist.
That is its job.
That is why it arose, to keep
you safe and protected and loved.
So if it's still thinks that you don't
have the resources to navigate your
life or that something bad could go
wrong, it's going to continue to arise.
And this is where a lot of what
we've done so far comes in.
You're learning to connect
to a place within you that
is more grounded, embodied,
empowered, surrendered, trusting.
Because the reality is, those
fear-based parts, those manager-based
parts that arise, they're often not
aware of the new resources you have.
I mean, when you're a child and something
goes wrong or a parent or a caregiver
says something to you that feels difficult
or painful, you don't really have the
inner narrative that can say, "All
right, you know, this is their stuff.
It's not based on me.
It doesn't mean that I'm
not worthy or lovable."
No.
The system adapts and internalizes that.
And then maybe you beat yourself up or you
tell yourself, "Well, I can't put myself
out there because it could lead to pain."
It's an adaptive strategy.
Later in life, if we don't realize
that we have new resources to
navigate those moments, something
like rejection or betrayal, that
part is still going to get activated.
And this is where learning to work
with our emotions, like fear, like
sadness and seeing that we can feel
this emotion and we can still be okay
or a thought can arise that says,
"I don't know if we should do this."
And we can just notice it as a
thought passing through the mind.
We've been doing this a
lot in our meditations.
Doing that is developing new internal
resources to navigate the ebb and
the flow of your life, including the
difficult experiences that arise.
So you're already setting that foundation.
In today's meditation, what we're
going to explore is connecting to
an inner part of you, we're going to
call it a guide, that is your most
grounded, authentic self that represents
that place that is the truest you.
And we're going to have that part
interact with maybe the more manager
controlling part so that they
can begin to have a relationship.
And the truer you can give some
information and guidance to that
underdeveloped or older part to let
it know that it can trust it, that you
have the resources to navigate your
life from a more mature, grounded, adult
place rather than this younger version.
So I'm excited to try that out with you.
Thanks for your practice as always.
And let's settle in
for today's meditation.
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