Hi, welcome back to

your Daily Mindfulness.

In today's session, we're going to

talk about the opposite of FOMO.

So if you haven't heard the word FOMO, the

definition of this, or it's an acronym,

it stands for fear of missing out.

The fear of missing out.

And even if you haven't heard

that expression, I'm sure you've

experienced the experience of FOMO.

Especially these days where we're

connected to our smartphones, technology.

So many things going on around the world.

We see pictures of people doing things.

We see people at parties

that we might not be at too.

We see all the things

our friends are doing.

And it, it can create this real fear

of am I missing out on something,

which sometimes can inspire us to do

a little bit more or make sure we're

involved in something that we might

otherwise not have been aware of.

But a lot of times, at least I know for

me, it just, it creates this obsessive,

neurotic feeling of am I doing enough?

Am I experiencing enough?

There's so much out there and I

don't feel like I can do it all.

And that I've found to be a

very unpleasant experience.

So I want to contrast that with another

word that I came across recently

that I think is the opposite of FOMO.

And this is called JOMO.

Another four, four word acronym.

It's the joy of missing out, rather

than the fear of missing out.

The joy of missing out.

And the definition of this is when you

embrace what's in front of you, trusting

that this is where you're supposed to

be right now, and feeling content with

disconnecting as a form of self-care.

Hmm.

So notice how that one lands for you.

For me, I, I, I think mindfulness

practice and the intention to be

present in our life is one of the

key things that can lead to, to JOMO.

We recognize that, yeah, there are

so many things that I could be doing

and in any given moment, right.

I could be here.

I could be there.

I could be traveling.

I could be at this job.

If I'm at a restaurant, I can

have this item or that item.

But when we really tune into what's

here right now and train ourselves

to appreciate the subtleties of

what's here and even find the joy

and the pleasure of what's here.

Then we're not activating

that FOMO mentality.

We're not caught in the fear of what

could be and instead we're training

ourselves to develop a contentment

with what is here right now.

And I really liked the last, last line of

that definition of feeling content with

disconnecting as a form of self care.

Because a lot of times when we do

finally have the opportunity to not do

something, where we could just sit on

the couch, lie down, maybe even watch

some, some TV or do some meditation.

The thing that can come up is we look

at our phone and we see everything

else going on and it immediately

gets in the way or can get in the way

of us feeling okay with letting go.

And so my encouragement to you is, is

when you feel those moments of FOMO,

when that fear does start to arise,

what would it look like to reorient

yourself to the joy of missing out?

What is the joy of what's in front of

you right now, what you're experiencing?

Notice the fear response, the

thoughts, just watch them.

They're just clouds

passing through the sky.

And drop into what's here right

now that you could appreciate.

And what, what is nice about not

being caught up in all of these other

things, but really giving yourself

permission to be where you are?

That's an ongoing training.

I get that it's difficult when there

is a world saying so many different

things that you should be doing.

And so in many ways, this is a massive

act of defiance against the system,

but it's something that can be trained

and we're doing it here with this,

with mindfulness and meditation.

So thanks for your practice and

let's continue to explore it by

settling in for our meditation today.