Hi, welcome back to

your Daily Mindfulness.

In today's session, I'm going to

share a simple language shift you can

use to move toward greater internal

safety, wholeness, and integration.

Now, a lot of times where we get

caught in disintegration, that is

creating an oppositional relationship

with parts of ourselves, is when we

experience parts that we don't like.

Emotions that are painful, sensations

that are difficult to experience.

And this causes us to get caught

in a mentality of why is this here?

Why am I feeling this?

And can you hear the, the

judgment imbued in that languaging?

Also the tone of it is frustrated.

Why is this here again?

We could change that tone

to be, Oh, why is this here?

And that would be leading with a

little bit more curiosity and openness.

But a lot of times, I don't know

about you, it can be easy to feel

an emotion of sadness or fear, and

then go, why am I feeling this?

And so in those moments, my encouragement

to you is going to play around with

shift from why am I feeling this,

to, what is it like to feel this.

Why am I feeling this, to,

what is it like to feel this.

And see if you could feel the

difference just in hearing that.

Why am I feeling this?

To, what is it like to feel this?

When we get caught up in, why am

I feeling this were assessing the

situation based on perhaps past

experiences that we've had or based on

experiences that we want to be having.

And we're looking at what we're currently

experiencing, experiencing, and going,

this doesn't match up to either of those.

And so it puts us in a linear

relationship to our life.

Past future.

Does this fit where I want

to be and where I'm heading.

And what that does is it

makes us frustrated with our

present moment experience and

wanting to get someplace else.

Now, the thing with that is there

are always going to be experiences

that arise that are frustrating,

that we don't particularly like.

That maybe aren't as pleasant

as full gratitude and joy.

And so if we're constantly trying

to get out of those experiences or

we're frustrated at ourselves for

experiencing those things, we're setting

ourselves up for a lifetime of tension.

But when we shift the language to what

is it like to feel this, well, that takes

us out of this relationship of trying

to get someplace else or thinking that

we should feel something other than

what we're feeling and drops us more

into presence with what we're feeling.

It allows us to lead with curiosity,

with interest and with, with a sense of

like, I'm genuinely interested in what

it's like to be with this experience

right now as another part of being human.

And when we're doing that, we're

welcoming this part of our experience

into the wholeness of who we are,

which leads to a deeper internal

safety, integration and yes, wholeness.

So there are of course times where asking,

why am I feeling this can be useful,

especially if it's related to our health.

And we're wondering, okay, this

seems to be out of nowhere.

What does this mean?

But a lot of times it's just coming

from a place of resentment and anger.

And in those moments, my encouragement

is to play around with shifting that

language from why am I feeling this,

to, what is it like to feel this.

Try it out.

Thank you for your practice.

Let's settle into our meditation.