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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
Benefits of Mindfulness: Mindful Living Can Change Your Life
Mindfulness 101: A Beginner's Guide
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Hi, and welcome to your Daily Mindfulness.
Today, I'm going to talk about closure.
So sometimes we have certain issues
from our past that we feel like
we haven't quite moved on from.
Something feels a little unresolved.
And we might think that if we can just
get something from another person,
you know, an apology, an explanation,
forgiveness, accountability for what
they did, some actions to make amends,
you know, then we could get closure.
The problem with that, with all
of these, is that these are all
things that we can't control.
But the good news is that that's
okay because closure doesn't
actually involve anyone else.
But you.
A couple of years ago, I had a
falling out with a friend and
I had enormous grief over it.
I didn't feel like I had closure for
a really long time and it consumed me.
I needed her to not hate me.
I needed her to understand.
I needed to say, sorry.
I needed her to say sorry.
I needed her to be
accountable for her actions.
But when none of that was possible,
I felt like I couldn't move on.
After a while I realized how
detrimental, stressful and debilitating
it was to hold on to all of that.
I realized I had to find
my own peace with things.
And I began the process of
finding closure in myself.
What I realized is that closure really
is an inner process and it doesn't really
require anything of the other person.
But I think the most important thing to
realize is that you're not really closing
something, you're healing something.
Although the word closure feels really
convenient, you know, very neat and
tidy and final like closing a door.
The reality is, is that you're
wanting to heal something.
And healing is not so black and white.
Healing's often messy and non-linear.
There are times when we feel
fine and other days where all the
pain resurfaces, and it always
takes longer than we want it to.
But if we can be patient and gentle,
compassionate with ourselves in the
process, instead of trying to push that
door of healing closed, then we can
bring soothing and comfort and love
to ourselves in the middle of it all.
And you know, we're actually likely
to heal much faster this way.
Now some things you could do to
support your healing along the way are
setting healthy boundaries with others.
So that might involve cutting off
communication with someone for a
while to let go of an attachment
or an unhelpful relationship.
It might mean not following people
on social media or asking for what
you need to help you move forward.
Other helpful things you could do,
talk with a friend, a therapist,
and also really put your focus on
embracing the life that you have in
front of you with your whole heart.
You know, maybe trying new hobbies, making
new friends, doing things you really love.
All of this can be really helpful,
but the main thing is to be patient
with yourself, allow healing to happen
step-by-step, and know that you can
still choose to live fully in the
present, even if you're carrying a
little bit of pain from the past.
So as always, thank you for your
practice and your presence here with us.
And now let's settling
for today's meditation.
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