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How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
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What is Meditation?
How to Meditate: Meditation 101 for Beginners
10 Science-Backed Benefits of Meditation
What is Meditation?
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Mindfulness 101: A Beginner's Guide
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Hi, and welcome to your Daily Mindfulness.
Today I'm going to talk about how we can
transform hard feelings towards others.
So did you know that a rattlesnake,
if cornered, often becomes so angry
and agitated that it will bite itself.
This is a great metaphor for
what the harboring of hate and
resentment against others is like.
It's a biting and a harming of ourselves.
We often think that we're harming
others in holding onto this kind
of ill will, but the deeper harm
we really are doing to ourselves.
So, if we feel hostility towards someone,
perhaps someone who's harmed us or let
us down, or a difficult person in our
lives, how do we get past these emotions?
Goodwill and ill will in the
end, just come down to your
own intention and mindset.
You can have goodwill and intent
towards others, or you can have
ill will and intent towards others.
It's really a choice.
If you have feelings of ill will, you'll
almost certainly create vicious cycles of
negativity and anger within yourself and
probably in relationship to the other.
Goodwill, however, breeds
understanding, peace and healing and
connection both within and without.
And when we focus continuously on
the hate or disdain we feel for
another, we tend to focus on their
bad qualities and justify our position
over and over again in our mind.
We make the other wrong or bad
and ourselves right and good in
the stories we replay in the mind.
So one strategy to heal the loops
of hatred and transform hard
feelings is to reflect on the
good qualities of that person.
Perhaps we can recall a brief
moment where we saw this person
being kind, helpful or cooperative.
Secondly, we can also acknowledge
that this person has suffering.
We can understand that despite
their mistakes and flaws, this
person probably truly does want
to be happy like we all do.
But probably their unawareness and
suffering led them to do what they did.
So, if we can see this person through
the eyes of understanding like this,
we see that we're only wishing harm
towards someone who's probably already
suffering and harming themselves.
And perhaps we can even begin to extend
wishes of loving kindness instead
of wishes of harm, wishes that their
suffering may ease instead of continue.
This can be really challenging, right?
I know because we don't really
want to let go of our hostility.
But in the end, this letting go
of hard feelings is a gift we give
to ourselves because we begin to
fill our own mind and body with the
energies of kindness and compassion.
So in today's meditation, we'll take
some time to let go of hostility
and generate loving kindness.
But also today, see if you can notice
when even the smallest bit of hard
feelings comes up and remember to ponder
this other person's good qualities
and their suffering and see if you
can soften and transform those hard
feelings into goodwill and kindness.
So as always thank you
for doing this work.
Thank you for your practice
and now inviting you to settle
in for today's meditation.
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